pity her..maybe you could try some psychology la..before this i have a female cat who don't like people to hold her,not even touch!when we try to get near she got all tensed.but that was few months back la heheh.

what i do?everyday i pick up another cat,then i sit beside lily the female cat n i start playing,talking, kiss hug the cat.all this while lily will stare at me and just follow everywhere my hand go.and i also make sure everytime i go out to see the cats, i will pat lily,and do some talking.

at last,one day when i sit next to her.her eyes were looking at me.i just look at her,and i hold out my hand to her.guess what?she just stand up,said mioww and start purring and tadaa!on my lap already.hehehe..

so all the best to you ya