Anita, I understand how you feel. I have cats since young and I have gone through the agony and pain of losing them. To be frank, I still remember all of them, the memories with those that we love will always be with us, even if they are not human beings.

I heard from many people that "Frieskies" is not a good food for cats. It has been reported by many people and few vets that cats can get "batu karang". I dont know how far it is true. Why not you search around for further info or consider changing food for your other cat. Since his brother had the problem, I suggest you to take Kabu to clinic for check-up, just for pre-caution.

After many years having cats and have seen different ways of losing them, I changed the way I raise cats - simple reason, I do not want my cats to die other than dying in a natural cause (natural cause as in old).

I keep my cats now (and all future cats) indoor whether they are pedigree or not (takut kena langgar atau kena curi). I feed them with premium or super premium food such as Royal Canin or IAMS even if they cost more than our "beras" (takut kucing I sakit). I send my cats for regular check-up and make sure they receive their annual boosters (to make sure they are healthy). I do all this because I cant afford to see them die.

Kabu is now alone. If you think youre the only one who feel sad, I believe Kabu felt the impact more than you. Love him and care for him.

It is good also to adopt a friend for Kabu. I know you feel sad but at least Kapas is no longer suffering anymore.

Take care.

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Dear Anita,
I was online when i saw your posting this afternoon. I guess i was avoiding reading them because i could not face the news. I couldn't bear to read thru what u wrote (brings back memories), but i'll read them sooner or later.
I am not good with words nor can i express as much - but i believe that a lot of us here understand how u feel right now. It is "that" part of life that nobody can deny.
From my glimpse on your posting, you know how to reach out to your readers. Perhaps that is a good way to express yourself. Remembering esp all the good times you n your family have had with Kapas n Kabu. After all, they are not just 4-legged animals, they were/are important characters in your life.
When you are ready, as Jay had written, perhaps you can try to get a companion for Kabu. Not to replace Kapas, but to add another colour to your life and Kabu's.

May you and your family find more happiness with your kindness to animals.
And may Kapas rest in peace.

Thanks Jay....thanks cat2chat...
I admit that I have zero knowledge about raising cats. I cursed myself time and again....why didn't it cross my mind to check on cat forum in the internet much earlier ? If I had done that, I would have know that friskies is bad for cat and I might have spare Kapas his life.
I will consider the idea of getting Kabu a companion later. I'm still grieving for Kapas. 24 hours ago, I was crying madly, and I am still crying non stop until now. I loved him so much and it hurts so bad to accept the fact that he's gone. There were many times today that I tersasul calling Kabu as Kapas. Plz help me god.....give me strength to face this loss.

Anita, even though it hurts so much to lose something precious, do not be afraid to love again ... with love, we are always vulnerable, we take a chance but it is always worth it.

See, you took a chance with Kapas and Kabu, opening your big kind heart to them and saved them from certain death at such a tender age and see ... so much blessings kan?

Open up your heart to love again, Anita because frankly, there are many, many more of sweet little Kapas' kind (his many, many brothers and sisters) out there who are lost and crossing dangerous roads and desperately in need of your precious love.

... and I am sure little Kapas would want it that way for his dearest beloved Mama ...

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FK,
Yr sweet words brought tears in my eyes huhuhuuuuu.............You ppl all full of empathy. How can I ever forget how nice u all are to me when in reality, we didn't even know each other.
Let me settle down for the time being, place my full attention and love to Kabu. Later, I'll open my heart to another Kapas. It's just a matter of time. Thanks for the condolence.

Anita, Kapas' kind (his brothers, sisters and friends) brought us together.

My friend, I realise that actually we (U, I and several forumers) have a deep connection and bond in our hearts with each other because we have been very privileged (... and I do believe that!) to be touched by them in a very special way and as a result we are now changed beings in that we now have a genuine love and concern for them, and they have a very, very special place in our hearts.

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You're right again FK (as always).